A Year of Nots
December 10, 2018 | My Jottings
I’m republishing a few posts this month — this one dredges up strong feelings in me.
First grade at Workman Avenue Elementary School was a year of nots for me.
I did not have a really close friend yet, so I spent recess time wandering around deep in my thoughts, talking to myself a little bit.
I did not like most foods, so spent lunch time in the cafeteria hoping others would offer me their peanut butter balls that came in the tiny paper cups. When it was time to go outside for lunch recess, I always took the mashed potatoes and hamburger gravy, peas, and cherry cobbler that I did not eat, walked to the cafeteria garbage can and threw them away. I also did not eat the fish sticks, the pizza, or the spaghetti and meatballs.
It wasn’t a concern because I was not that hungry. Abba Zabbas and cottage cheese were usually waiting at home if I was.
In first grade my hair did not have bangs. My mother always took an uncompromising moral stand against bangs. She believed little girls’ foreheads should be seen and not covered. And the rest of them covered and not seen.
Consequently, one small drawer in my room was not lacking in a wide variety of plastic headbands.
I did not think I’d better chop off my hair right before picture day, like I did when I was in Kindergarten, here.
At age six, I began to be aware that my parents did not have a solid marriage. I felt this deeply and probably spent a lot of time walking around at recess begging God to please not let them split up.
In Southern California in 1963, I was miserable and petulant if I was not allowed to swim as often as possible.
I was not close to my older brother Steve, who regarded me as a pest he did not want to have around.
I did not see my oldest brother Larry enough, as he was twenty-one when I was six and did not live with us anymore.
I did not miss very many afternoon episodes of Mighty Mouse.
One afternoon during story time on the rug, my teacher Mrs. Weber asked the class if they believed in the devil. I was a Sunday School goin’ girl so said yes, and when I described to her what I thought he might look like, Mrs. Weber laughed and mildly snickered at me. I was a little embarrassed and did not like that. (Mrs. Weber was in her fifties then, so I do not think she’s alive today. I would imagine that no matter what side of the spiritual fence she ever came down on, she is not snickering about that topic now.)
My mother had a friend named Mary Wyles who did not ever miss a Wednesday visit at my house with my mom. They did crafts together and talked over the matters of their hearts.
I had a little red bike with training wheels and did not like it when it was stolen from our garage less than a year after I’d received it for Christmas.
In first grade I had not yet eaten anything green except celery and iceberg lettuce, had not had a nibble of cheese, or a taste of an egg.
When I was in first grade, I did not realize how wonderful it was to have a back yard with two nectarine trees, one apricot tree, one peach tree, one plum tree, and a lemon tree with fruit the size of oranges.
I did not know that two chocolate donuts mushed up in a bowl of whole milk was not a healthy breakfast. And apparently my parents did not realize this either.
I did not realize then how I could have been the poster child for Gummy Bears, but hindsight is everything. (Click on the photo for further confirmation.)
I did not know that twice-yearly trips to Disneyland was not the norm for other little boys and girls of the world.
In 1963 I did not have a clue that I would do better in school the following year.
I did not know that someday I would drink from a water fountain and not have the water run out of my nose.
In first grade I realized my mother had a slightly crippled foot (due to a botched spinal anesthetic), and that was why she sat in the car and did not go into the local Alpha Beta grocery store, and sent me in with a list and a check instead.
There was never a time when Knutsen Cottage Cheese was not on the list.
Right around this time I decided I would like to be a grocery checker (we didn’t call them cashiers) when I grew up, and not a nurse or a teacher after all.
Even at age six, I was not afraid of deep water.
I did not understand puns yet, and had no idea how humorous it was to have a dentist named Dr. Payne.
I did not know a lot of things.
What I also did not know when I was in first grade was that God was really there with me at all times. I did not know yet that He had made me and was going to see me through a lot of things in the coming years. I knew He loved me because my Sunday School teachers told me so, but I did not realize what kind of love and keeping that would turn out to be.
I did not know that He would save my life over and over again, and that He would not ever let me go.
I did not know that no matter how tied up in nots, Jesus can take any life and make His light and presence known in the deepest of darks.
Even today, I sometimes do not remember that this is His promise to His children.
During the year of nots, Jesus was there. He never left me.
He will not leave me now.
And He will not leave you.
Have you called out His name lately?
If not…why not?
Lot of deep thoughts for a 6 year old. On the other side of the US in Massachusetts Disneyland twice a year would have been heaven and fruit trees, I didn’t know such things existed. We had apples and pears and nothing very exotic. You were a real cute 6 year old. About this time (1963) I loved hair bands.
Thank you Nancy… I would have been intrigued by all the history surrounding you, even when I was young. Did you have hard plastic hairbands or the elastic kind? Mine were mostly the latter. 🙂 xoxo